After a day at Océanopolis, we got an early start out of Brest on Friday (21 July). Now we’re finally heading east.
“Do you see it now?”
Many of you will have seen the Netflix mini-series The Queen’s Gambit. It’s the fictional story of an orphaned chess prodigy named Beth Harmon who battles personal demons to claw herself to the top of her sport. In one scene, she challenges her opponent, a friend, with a question about the end game: “Do you see it now?” she asks. He admits he doesn’t. She does.
The same question can be posed to parents looking to give their children the best possible chance to succeed in school and life: Do you see the things that can really make a difference? Of course, no two children are exactly alike. A child who is, say, musically or athletically gifted will (understandably) be brought up differently than a child who is not. But for most teens, a great adventure can be a life changer—because impressive accomplishment brings self-esteem, and self-esteem is transformative, in our personal lives AND in the classroom (see the post on St. Benedict’s school in Newark, NJ.) Moreover, a great adventure can help teens see a more imaginative end game for themselves. Suddenly, new possibilities present themselves, possibilities that may not on the radar screens of most of their friends.
Good classroom instruction should never be discounted. But sometimes it’s what kids learn—or don’t learn—outside of the classroom that makes the teachers look good. Or not. Leading Swiss boarding schools are now charging over USD100,000 per year in tuition. What on earth is that paying for? No doubt different parents will give different answers. But surely one of the most common answers would be “experiences.” Switzerland sits a short train or coach ride away from several European cultural capitals. And opportunities for outdoor adventure are everywhere. It’s an “experience bonanza.” We, too, offer an exceptional European adventure and cultural-exposure opportunity—at a much more reasonable price. You have our coordinates.
Digital Detox at Sea
In a world where cell phones and video games take up an inordinate amount of teenagers' time, it's useful to know there are places they can go where they're off the digital grid. Taking an ELS expedition is like stepping back in time. Much of the English Channel is a wilderness and our boats are constructed using a 19th-century design. They don't come equipped with Wi-Fi. While we want crew members to be able to take and share pictures of their adventures, technology usage is extremely limited. That leaves ample time to absorb new experiences, learn new skills, and make new friends.
Want more evidence of the benefits of digital detox? Click here.
Living an Interesting Life
The Week recently posted an article by Eric Barker, the well-known blogger ("Barking Up The Wrong Tree"). The title: Seven ways to be the most interesting person in the room. Now, "interesting" need not imply narcissism or snobbery. It simply helps people avoid being a bore, which apart from anything else is an essential ingredient in the stew we call good manners. And, of course, it includes the imperative to be interested in others, as well. Eric concludes his piece:
And most importantly: Live an interesting life.
Remember the theme of Don Quixote: If you want to be a knight, act like a knight. If you don't read, watch, and think about generic things, generic things are less likely to come out of your mouth. This doesn't need to be expensive or difficult. Hang out more often with the most interesting people you know. The friends you spend time with dramatically affect your behavior — whether you like it or not. The Longevity Project, which studied over 1000 people from youth to death had this to say: The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become. In The Start-up of You, Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha talk about how the best way to improve particular qualities in yourself is to spend time with people who are already like that. The best and most reliable way to appear interesting is to live an interesting life. [Emphasis ours] And to pursue that ends up being far more rewarding than merely making a good impression on others. [Though being somewhat impressive can give a major boost to your self-image and confidence.]
Hmmm. Sometime in your late teens sounds like a good time to start embarking on great adventures in interesting places with interesting people—adventures that will shape your character for the rest of your life.